Miami college sweethearts hold hands ’til the end

Carole ’73 and Gary Goshorn ’73 met as freshmen at a Miami home basketball game in Millett Hall. They fell in love during college, and their devotion grew even stronger throughout Carole’s 15-year journey with Alzheimer’s disease.

When Carole’s senior living community locked its doors against COVID-19 in March 2020, Gary stayed with her, knowing he would not be allowed to leave. As Carole took her last breath March 3, 2021, the two were holding hands in a mold to create a final memento of their love.

The Fall/Winter 2020 Miamian alumni magazine shared their heartwarming story through “Somewhere My Love.”

As a tribute, Bobby Goldwater ’74, a longtime friend and a member of the Glee Club’s alumni advisory board with Gary, who is the board’s current president, wrote the following reflection: 

For Carole and Gary

A lasting bond of cherished friendship, formed from music more than 50 years ago, has covered many miles and memories, decades of occasions together and time apart. On behalf of the Men’s Glee Club, I am grateful for this opportunity to offer an admiring reflection.

It was on her 1970 album, “Whales & Nightingales,” in which Judy Collins sang in her pure, piercing voice familiar lyrics from the timeless hymn crafted by the Shakers:

’Tis the gift to be simple 
Tis the gift to be free
Tis the gift to come down where we ought to be 
And when we find ourselves in the place just right 
Twill be in the valley of love and delight. 

Good fortune and gilded fate brought me together with a welcoming sophomore, Gary Goshorn, that same year when I arrived at Miami University and was gifted the privilege to join the Men’s Glee Club. It was a short time later when I was introduced to his sunshine.

Carole and Gary. The perfect couple. They became inseparable and unforgettable. Then and always. On any day and in all ways. Their genuine warmth and their radiant smiles.

Contributing their indomitable energies to give back to so many and drawing on their shared Indiana upbringing to pay forward for so many more. Caring educators committed to inspiring through teaching and generous souls dedicated to displaying life’s bountiful lessons.

Countless acts of courteous kindness and selfless service. Innumerable examples of charming grace and effervescent ease. Their embrace reliably within reach, their touch dependably flawless. For each other. For us. Perfect pitch. Harmonious. Indelible. Undeniable.

Simple gifts.
She has slipped away, but this couple is etched in our collective memory.
They are the embodiment of a Miami Merger.
Enduring symbols of the best of us.
Together, they have been a gift to Miami.
To everyone, they are a gift from Miami.
To eternity, they will be a gift about Miami:
The very essence of Love and Honor.

Bobby Goldwater ’74
March 8, 2021

Read Carole’s obituary.

View her memorial service, held Wednesday, March 10, 2021, at St. Peter’s Lutheran Church in Columbus, Indiana.

Carole Fiedler Goshorn Memorial Fund

In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to Miami University in Carole’s memory or directly to her memorial fund. To do so, go to Giving Page and under Designations, select Give to the area(s) of your choice. Then select Other fund and in the comments type Carole Fiedler Goshorn Memorial Fund.

Alternatively, anyone wishing to donate in Carole’s name may mail a check made out to the “Miami University Foundation,” with “Carole Fiedler Goshorn Memorial Fund” indicated on the memo line, to:

Miami University Advancement Services
Attn: Carrie Powell
926 Chestnut Lane
Oxford, OH 45056

Acts of Love and Honor

Love and Honor, the opening phrase to Miami’s Fight Song that is deeply embraced by many Miamians, is so important to Carole and Gary. In this time of COVID-19, as an alternative to in-person visitation and a celebration of life service open to the public, the Goshorn family asks friends and Miami family to please reach out and demonstrate “LOVE and HONOR” to a deserving person, remembering Carole as you do your act of kindness. They request that you make it simple, sincere and meaningful. The family further invites you to share your Love and Honor experience via the Barkes, Weaver & Glick Funeral Home website.

One thought on “Miami Merger love everlasting

  1. Thanks Bobby for the touching tribute. It’s my loss that I didn’t know Carole, but singing with Gary and Bobby was a joy
    Mike Pfahler 1973

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